What r u living for ??

It is a simple question yet has a difficult answer, it is your life. Why are you doing what you're doing? Is it because you love it? Is it because it pays the bills? Is it because society has told you it is the next thing to do? The simple decisions we make ultimately become our life. Wouldn't it be a good idea to stop every once in a while and try to figure out why you are doing what you're doing.I know so many college students that if you ask them why they are going to school they say they don't know. They're just going because it was the next thing on the checklist. The checklist of life, go to school, go to college, get a good job, get married, have kids, survive, retire and then die. There is nothing wrong with the checklist, but the checklist is not life. Just because you made it from step 2 to step 3 doesn't mean you are living. I feel so bad for the college students that commit there life to making it through school and working and sacrificing and when they get out they think they are going to have life. Life is now...

Not when you get out of school, not when you get married. The choices you make now determine the life you will live. If you don't determine to live in the moment, if there is not purpose and life in what you are doing now, what makes you think there will be later?Vision, it is so hard to find now days. Someone that has vision for their life. Someone that wants to serve a purpose bigger then themselves. Someone that is not content with the checklist. I know that I'm being idealistic but who wants to be the statues quo? To live a life of vision is to live the great adventure. To take risks, the risk of real relationships and friendships, the risk of doing your own thing rather then follow the footsteps of your family, the risk of committing your life to something greater then yourself. These risks are necessary, they don't always work out, that is why they are called risks. Sometimes your friends will hurt you, sometimes you die when you fight for something greater then yourself, but those that do are always remembered as heroes, people who truly lived, people who truly believed in what they were doing. What are you living for?

Mixed Signals !!!!

This is about my friend and she gets so bugged at times and me like always need to lsiten to her stories.... but isnt this true with all men..



He calls frequently sometimes, and fails to get in touch with you at other times. He seems so enthusiastic about your future together, and other days he wonders if he ever wants to settle down. The relationship seems to turn hot and cold because of his inconsistency. Regardless, you are left feeling confused. How are you supposed to know what to do or where you stand in a relationship with him acting so wishy-washy all the time? You even start to question whether he is lying when he tells you how much he cares about you … because you know he will go right back to acting as strange as before.

If You Think You're a Good Person Don't Read This

Why is everyone so obsessed with being a good person?
Let me explain, I was helping a friend with her ethics { which i dont have at all } homework on a discussion board. Everyone on the board is talking about what is ethical and what is not, like they actually know. The majority of these people, if you talk to them, hold out that they are a ‘good person’(Surprise!). Good based on what?



For once, I want to meet someone that knows they are a bad person but wants to change. Whenever I ask people why they are a good person they never seem to know. ‘Well I am a moral person’ they will say or like the little kid I talked to the other day, ‘I don’t hit’. Since everyone seems to think they are a good ethical and moral person I decided I would do some research to find out why… How can a person do whatever they want to do and still say the are a good person?

Meanings!!!

This mail was sent to me by Pradeep Nair in a personal mail.. thought of sharing this with u guys...

The following gems of wisdom were gleaned from test papers and essays from elementary, junior high, high school, and college students.

As one teacher noted, "It is truly astonishing what weird stuff our young scholars can create under the pressures of time and grades!"

1. "Water is composed of two gins, Oxygin and Hydrogin. Oxygin is pure gin.
Hydrogin is gin and water."
2. "Blood flows down one leg and up the other."

3. "Dew is formed on leaves when the sun shines down on them and makes them
perspire."
4. "Mushrooms always grow in damp places and so they look like umbrellas."

5. "Momentom : What you give a person when they are going away."

6. "To prevent milk from turning sour, keep it in the cow."
7. "The parts of speech are lungs and air."

8. "The inhabitants of Moscow are called Mosquitoes."

9. "A census taker is a man who goes from house to house increasing the population."

10. "Most of the houses in France are made of plaster of Paris."

11. "The spinal column is a long bunch of bones. The head sits on the top and you sit on the bottom."

12. "The word trousers is an uncommon noun because it is singular at the top and plural at the bottom."



13. "Iron was discovered because someone smelt it."

14. "Syntax is all the money collected at the church from sinners."

15. The sun never set on the British Empire because the British Empire's in the East and the sun sets in the West.

16. Gravity was invented by Issac Walton. It is chiefly noticeable in the autumn when the apples are falling off the trees.

17. Finally Magna Carta provided that no man should be hanged twice for the same offence.

18. After his death, his career suffered a dramatic decline.

19. Actually, Homer was not written by Homer but by another man of that name.

20. The Greeks were a highly sculptured people, and without them we wouldn't have history. The Greeks also had myths. A myth is a female moth.

21. The invention of the steamboat caused a network of rivers to spring up.

22. Queen Victoria was the longest queen. She sat on a thorn for 63 years.

The Undesired !!

Love… Sometimes it seems like just another four letter word or a slap in the face more then a life saving, world changing idea. It is such an over used word now days. Just in case you forget to tell someone all year, there is a holiday to remind you. I’ve seen people that say they love each other act like people that hate each other. I’ve seen people use each other in the name of love. I even know people that confuse the site of a beautiful person with love. So what is love?...


I am just 23 years old; I am no expert on what love is or how to love. I am maybe writing this more for input and reflection then anything else. I realize most people like the idea of love more then the act of love. It is a glorious and popular idea, just look how many streamlined love stories are found in chick flicks. Believe me people don't watch these movies for their plotlines. People watch these movies for how they make you feel. They are like emotional crack. The idea of love is highly addictive but an act of love seems rare.

Love is a funny thing, it is not fickle like approval, it is not based on you. It is ultimately based on the lover not the loved. If the lover truly loves you unconditionally, if they are hopelessly in love with you, it is like that song, “you can do no wrong”.

Real love is to love someone whether they love you or not. It is to love them the way they always needed to be loved. Real love sets aside the idea that you have rights in a relationship. No wonder it is so rare to see real love. I think everyone likes the idea of sacrifice a whole lot more then the act.

What can fill your life with purpose and life one week; can leave you feeling empty and lifeless the next. Why is that? Have we become users rather then lovers? Have we traded a passion filled, unselfish action for an idea?

If Your Gonna Jump You Might Want To Look Where Your Gonna Land

There is a fine line between passion and stupidity. Have you ever met someone who has the “Here is my heart please break it” approach to romance? I am a huge advocate of passionate living, fighting for meaning, living the great adventure. However, throwing oneself at everything that stirs your emotions is not the same as passionate living, at least not the way I define it.

There are times in life that require faith and huge risk. Sometimes you just have to jump in not always knowing the outcome. Decisions like this should be based on core beliefs and values. Passionate living seems to be found somewhere in knowing when to do this.

Stupidity however, is modern day dating. I can’t say I have found the perfect alternative yet, but I am trying, yes, searching for the answer. Meeting someone, leading them on, falling for them before you really know who they are and then breaking their heart when you shockingly realize it is not going to work out cannot be the best way. For one, I think it should be a crime that guys are allowed to go around breaking girl’s hearts. Yet on the other hand, the way some girls play guys is downright wicked.

Taking a relationship slow is unheard of now days. Why is trying to get to know someone before you become romantically involved so crazy? It seems to me that most people become romantically involved by the 3rd or 4th date now days if not sooner. You’re telling me you actually think you know that person after three dates! You’re crazy. Why are we surprised when two months later we feel like we had our heart ripped out by someone we thought we loved? Can you really even blame the other person… they were just being who they are. It just hurts you cause they didn't become who you thought they were. There has to be a better way…

I think the answer lies somewhere in taking it slow and actually caring about the other person whether you end up with them or not. You have to set out wanting to protect your heart and the other parties from the beginning. You actually have to be a friend and get to know them, before you charge into a romantic relationship. I have talked to a friend ( X) of mine who had this conversation with another friend( Y) of his before X recently ‘met a girl’.

X:“So are you guys dating, are you together”.

Y: “Well, umm, no, I don’t think so, No not yet”.

X: “Have you kissed her yet”?

Y: “Well yah, of course”

X: “but you’re not together”

Y: “Well I don’t know… but I really like her”

X: “I bet she is starting to not like you and get a little confused!”

Y: “Why? I really do like her.”

We need to get a clue! This is not working people, we need to try something different. I am tired of guys leading a girl on and then breaking her heart. I am tired of broken hearts. We actually need to plan a little before we jump, think a little before we pursue love. I don’t think this will steal the passion, I think it could actually enhance it. Imagine knowing someone cared about you enough to protect you before you had a romantic relationship… now that might be someone worth pursuing…Just a thought.

Do You Feel Appreciated?

Have you ever felt underappreciated at work… not motivated because it wouldn’t matter whether you worked yourself to death or didn’t work hardly at all? Welcome to big business! The fast paced cutthroat life of climbing the corporate ladder. The world of cookie cutter careers, where the promises of joy and contentment are rarely found. If you don’t believe me just give it time.
This week I just found out that I have to take the next two weeks off work for a training. I think they call it “furlough”. I guess that is the nice way for a billion dollar corporation to say “We want to save some money so we thought we would take yours, have a great vacation, now that you have no money, oh yah, when you get back we need you to take an additional two weeks off without pay next quarter as well”.



I know I am complaining and I apologize, I guess I am just trying to give you a real life first hand example of why I am always saying there has to be more to life than a career. Your career will not love, care and nurture you. It will send you on a path for more and more and then once you have tons of bills many times it will dump you in a dangerous and helpless position. Don’t get me wrong, I am not telling you to be a bad employee. When you’re at work, work hard. Just make sure it is not your life, make sure the success of your life does not rise and fall on the success of your career. I think that is one of the secrets to life. How do you do it? I am not totally sure, but I can tell you that not being in any debt except for maybe a house payment would make it a lot easier. Anyway, wish me luck and leave a comment if you have any ideas on how to actually pull off this secret to life…

What a Day !!!

An amazing day today... no emergencies to talk about. things happening in the manner planned, people looking generally relaxed. Everything where it should properly be... my boss in his cubicle, my PM on leave, the cash in the bank, the pepsi in the fridge and potato chips in the kitchen. What more can a man ask for...
There is something absolutely divine about a lethargic day at office.. especially if yesterday had been the day when God looked at you in the morning and smirked to himself... "Lets play around a bit with the men shall we"
So Yesterday... I got up late missed the office bus and coughed up a substantial amount to the buswalla who conveniently did not have the patience to wait ... Was late for a meeting, and ended up messing up a client invoice. Had three deliverables with due dates mentions as "ASAP" (How I hate that acronym).... and to top it all, the coffee vending machine decided to do a 'Titanic'....

By evening I had a headache... but had to be in a session on something as useless as 'Software Quality Assurance' with my team.... they slept in the chairs while i saw them dozzing away... absolute torture for both the sides i guess..
Understandably... when I returned to my lonely abode I was pretty irritable... and then... my friend called. To say the least, I was not at my civil best with him ... and so ended up spending the next one hour trying to somehow apologise.
Had it not been for my Pepsi and Chips... I would have been dead today
But today.... ah today is one of those perfect days when you feel like smiling at everyone... even at the chowkidar of your society who promptly locks the gate every night at Eleven... and raises a huge hullabaloo when you come back from some midnight excursion... Sigh... Its a wonderful world...

Mom!!

In my childhood, i did not know how to mix rice with curry in the correct ratio...some times i mixed less curry with more rice and some times less rice with more curry...as a result its taste was not good...ofcourse i ate many time that less tasty or over tasty mixture of food... but many times, when my mother was eating, i went to her and asked again for food. why because that food was very tasty. i thought she knew how to mix rice with curry in the correct ratio. i liked very much to eat food mixed by our mother. But when i ate food mixed by some other elders in our family and outside my family (neighbours), i could never got that taste....
Is mixing of food and curry in the correct ratio the only reason behind that taste? I don't think so. I think mothers not only mix the curry and food in the correct raio, but they also add their love to that food..........what do u say???

Tripti and Abu!!!

Happy Birthday Tripti

Many Many Happy Returns of the Day Tripti.....


This ones for u :
Believing hear, what you deserve to hear:Your birthday as my own to me is dear...But yours gives most; for mine did only lendMe to the world; yours gave to me a friend.



Tripti has been my real best pal for the past one yr... the day i went for the interview to join Accenture... from that day till date we have been always there for eachother.... She is just like tiny little doll or can say princess... She has been with me in my bad times and the most happiest moment also.... Stupid girl always wanted to be in goa on her b'day.. this time she went to goa on 7th June and mam's b'day is today thats 10th June and guess what she is coming back to banaglore with her boyfriend tommorow morning coz she wants to be with me on her b'day ...
i just cant stop laughing.. She is so crazy.... its just that we all 3 ,thats, Abu , tripti and myself have been such good friends that we always have the best of the time whenever we go out or meet up..
Again Tripzzz happy birthday sweetheart

Lonely 2!!!

My friends abu and tripti have gone out woth their other friends to goa...10th june is her b'day...Abu's b'day was on 25th may and he wasnt here.. tripti and myself had decided to have a surprise party for him..ofcourse he stays in hyd.. but this guy comes down to bangalore meet tripti. he wanted to be here on her b'day on 10th june. Tripti told him that she wanted her b'day to be special so she gave us the idea of going to Goa this weekend or before that..
she asked me.. i was all set and ready but waiting for another friend's anwser.. but that friend of mine said no.. so i also dropped out the plan.. and even i felt that it would be humid in goa too at this season...
though i really had some good plans for their b'days but now they have left me all alone here... in bangalore and have gone to goa....
I have never been to goa before ever in my life and want to go there once before i get married..Just can say that i want to live my life in those 2-3 days.. I am not saying that i will do anything that i am not supposed to.. no boozing and stuff... i just want to play in the water... see the sunset... think of the beautiful days in my life all alone.. just want to be alone for a while and think about the things that i have done in life.. what i want to do and what i always wanted..
Probably can say...that i want to be alone at the same time be with that one person whom i love the most.... and also live life to the fullest in those 2-3 days...
I am missing abu and tripti a lot.. they left today and i feel sick by 7pm...
have a bad headache.. cold..fever throat pain..body pains.. sleepy...and i feel so weak...
i just feel like going for a holiday :(
Oh god plz do some miracle where in even i can go for a holiday if not to goa atleast to ooty.. plzzz :(
i just feel so alone..

Lonely !!!

I just feel so left out today and all alone..feels like as if no one needs me. I call up someone and then talk to that person and end up hurting myself. Maybe that person never wanted to hurt me and is just that i picked up on his words and that ended it all...
I get so sick in life wehn i don get what i want.. when ppl dot give me their tme.. I am not asking for the world frm them but just a few mins where in it only u and me in person.
To my surprise now when i opened my inbox and check my mails...
my MSN horoscope says this " In your mind you may have the perfect plan all laid out, Kiranmayi V R. You have communicated to the people you need to connect with, you have traveled to the appropriate spots you needed to see in order to gather data, and you have all your resources in line. For some reason, however, every time you start to take action to implement this plan, you run into some emotional difficulties that seem too challenging to surmount. Don't let this block you any longer from your dreams."

no what do i say ..todays horoscope for the day sys it all and its perfectly to very true ad correct..

Whats the world got for me !!

For some reason I find myself in a very vague mood. Been happening quite a bit lately. Just to retain mental composure seems an uphill task. And then I hate sticky wickets.
And whats adding to salt to the wounds is the fact that people tend to run to you with their problems. You could say I am almost *this* close to becoming an agony aunt. [its a std phrase, I dare you to use such a word :)] Well its the way the world is ...any problem that is ours and it does go under all sorts of optical devices - magnifying glasses, microscopes even a telescope ...people often worry about problems that could come in future too. Ok now you do actually lend a ear and offer a plausible solution and pat comes a reply "You dont know how it is" or "Its easy to say all that". Sometimes they say it with such a tone you even begin to wonder if they were serious about finding a solution at all. All they wanted to do was talk, more importantly about themselves. At times you also sense a "You are so lucky its not like that with you!!" undertone. That my friends is the last straw. I know I was dumb enough to sit through it all in the first place.
I dont deny the fact that these people do have real problems. But the best way to deal with is to have a clarity in thought, a thorough self examination and finally decisive action. Talking about it does help to the extent that it is a genuine vent of pent up emotions or seeking advice from people who matter.
Like many of us, I too have had a fair share of problems, and as much as I would like to run and carry them to someone, all I ask for is, that someone say "It'll be alright!!".